A casual over clinical psychotherapy approach. Rebuild your sense of safety, trust & confidence for healthier relationships with yourself & others.
Exploration into our social and emotional behaviours can be uncomfortable,
but it transforms our conscious awareness and creates positive change & growth within all of us.
The bright light excitement is feeling dim: loneliness, loss of self, relationship struggles, feeling disconnected, constant distancing, needing to de-attach to protect, or just keep being busy to avoid our true feelings in an attempt to feel like everything is ok. Because, we made it to the big city and should be happy, right?
Let's face it; it is difficult to have true open conversations with our parents or teachers about some things, and our friends think they know, but we know they really don't. We often pick up bad habits and make mistakes with what we say or do, which means we make bad decisions with romantic relationships, friends, family and even colleagues as we transition from being dependent in sixth form to independent at university or in our first careers? So, let's skip some of these mistakes together…
Every relationship status has its challenges: singlehood, break-ups, separation, divorce, dating and friendships. All relationships can make us feel unheard, misunderstood, lonely, isolated, and lost. We are all expected to be able 'to do' relationships. Yet, we do not have any education or training for what is probably one of the most important roles within our adult lives; so, no wonder why most of us find it challenging…
Burning out or already on an ember: long-lasting tiredness, lack of motivation, struggling to keep it all together. We can so easily feel like we are constantly pleasing others at work, in friendships or with romantic partners and not being true to ourselves? We may feel that if we do not, people will not stick around. Are we subconsciously the people pleaser, the overachiever, the perfectionist…
Sometimes we need to brave a much-needed change and feel unstoppable; following unhealthy lifestyle habits, a fundamental life event, or another ended relationship? During times of unease, it is important that we find ourselves again and become empowered. We need to learn how to cage our inner gremlin, the imposter, to reduce feelings of anxiety & uncomfortable thoughts. We all deserve an opportunity to create better relationships with ourselves & others…
We can struggle to say goodbye in fear that if we let go, we will lose someone or something? We can often feel stuck, and we find ourselves grasping on tightly and unable to let go. Or perhaps, we fear the feeling of failure at the end of another relationship? Grief is not just associated with death; break-ups, divorce and loss of friendship also require grieving in moving forward…
After just a few sessions with Charlie, my journey and decisions became much clearer. She listens carefully, poses really open ended questions that make you pause, reflect and consider, and talking through my objectives has made my path a whole lot smoother. The sessions have really helped me come to terms with difficult decisions, as well as recognising what my true goals are, and overall, I know my decisions are the right ones. She is friendly, warm, makes you feel at ease, and I would heartily recommend her.
Charlie provided me with a safe space to express my life concerns and helped me see things from a different perspective. I was 'stuck' in my head, and with her walking beside me, I managed to break free from my self-limiting thoughts and approached situations from a more solution-oriented manner. I recommend her because she will definitely help you see things from a different light.
Charlie has been coaching me for just under a year now, and every session is priceless. She has made me open up and explore various limiting beliefs and helped me see things from a different angle. Charlie has helped me become aware of others' attachment styles, including my own which have helped me become aware of challenging relationship dynamics. Charlie has really helped me grow and develop and bought so much awareness about my behaviour patterns. I am forever grateful for the self-development she has bought me.
After going through a long, drawn-out toxic break up, I was on my knees. Charlie really helped me to find my true self again, to feel confident and empowered. It took a long time to feel comfortable in my own skin, to feel worthy of love again. I blamed myself. I held so much shame that a woman of my age was single again. But Charlie really helped me learn why we do things and why we act and think in different ways. She really got me interested in reading psychology books. She helped to pick myself up from a place of anxiety and anxiety attacks to a calm, self-regulated self. I'm so much lighter and now have the knowledge to be free from emotional heaviness. No cliché intended, but Charlie's support has been overwhelmingly life-changing.
After many years of feeling like I just couldn't please my wife, struggles with affairs and questioning whether to continue my marriage, Charlie really helped me to see what I really wanted. Her casual approach makes you feel normal, not like you need to see somebody because you're toxic. I really am grateful for the awareness she has brought to me about my unhealthy perceptions of love and how I can get it right and understand how to communicate properly with my wife.
After feeling like I would be a single-red-blooded bachelor on the hunt every weekend for the rest of my days following my divorce. Charlie's direction helped me see I was running and avoiding. I had to hold the image that men have it all together all the time. Not processing my stuff. She helped give me space and guidance on how to grieve my feelings for leaving many women. She was able to really get me to think about me. Sounds crazy to say, but I am so glad I now know about my attachment and love languages and how to effectively communicate with women for my future relationship. Trying to change my perception that embers are better than flames. Best investment I've made.
Are you tired of feeling unsuccessful in your relationships? Are you wanting that deep connection with that new romance or your partner? But always seem to end up feeling let down or alone?
I'm a psychologist & I can help speed things along.
The truth: if we don't have our 50% of a relationship sorted & don't learn from our mistakes, we will repeat our behaviours again & again and continue to sabotage our relationships. Can you afford that?
Let's move forward and break free from the maze your stuck in, together.
Life is short, let's not waste time.
Hello, I’m Charlotte Spurway (GMBPsS), and I’m a psychologist. Now that we are acquainted, please call me ‘Charlie’!
Let’s be realistic; life is challenging, it hurts sometimes, and we can so easily feel the tide come over us. I provide an approach which…
I didn’t see it at first, but my path into finding me, and the journey I started in helping myself, ended up being my path into helping others. Now perhaps, I see this as the start of my true calling, being true to myself and finally feeling like I am on the journey that was meant for me.
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