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Reading essentials

Here are some must read books from my survival guide, which come highly recommended by myself & my courageous clients to help support your healing journey…

It's Not You

By Dr Ramani Durvasula PhD

Identifies narcissistic traits in relationships and helps you understand emotional abuse, gaslighting, and rebuilding self-worth.

It's Not Me, It's You

By John Kim & Vanessa Bennett

Therapists explore codependency, conflict cycles, and emotional triggers through the lens of modern relationships and inner work.

Secure Love

By Julie Menanno

A Couple’s therapist explains attachment styles and teaches skills to create emotionally secure, connected, and lasting romantic relationships.

The State Of Affairs

By Esther Perel

Couples therapist unpacks infidelity, emotional disconnection, and why people cheat, even in seemingly strong, long-term relationships.

Break Up On Purpose

By John Kim

Guides you through breakup clarity, emotional detachment, and finding alignment after the end of a relationship.

How To Be The Love You Seek

By Dr Nicole LePera

Links childhood wounds to adult relationships and teaches emotional regulation, boundaries, and secure connection.

Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before

By Dr Julie Smith

Offers practical tools for anxiety, low mood, overthinking, and emotional overwhelm in everyday life.

What Happened To You

By Bruce Perry PhD & Oprah Winfrey

Explains how trauma shapes behaviour, emotional reactions, and nervous system responses in adult relationships.

It Begins With You

By Jillian Turecki

Focuses on self-awareness, emotional resilience, and changing unhealthy relationship patterns through inner work in romantic connections.

Attached

By Dr Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

An introduction to attachment styles to help you self-discover your role and repeated behaviours in romantic relationships.

The 5 Love Languages

By Gary Chapman

An introduction into the different types we give and want to receive love from our romantic partners.

How to do the work

By Dr Nicole LePera

Why are we the way we are? A reflective read into our hardwiring, patterns, and behaviours.

Hold me tight

By Dr Sue Johnson

How to communicate better with our romantic partners to enhance our relationship needs and experiences with those we love.

Anything Brene Brown!

Various titles

Reflective and heart-felt vulnerability in how to stay true and connect with ourselves.

Why Won't You Apologise

By Harriet Lerner PhD

A reflective read on the challenges of trusting again and healing after broken connections.

The Dance of Connection

By Harriet Lerner PhD

How to communicate better with our romantic partners to enhance our relationship needs and experiences with those we love.

The Dance of Anger

By Harriet Lerner PhD

A reflective read on how to regulate anger and mis-communication within relationships.

Mating in Captivity

By Esther Perel

A reflective read into our romantic relationships with a focus on our and our partner’s intimacy and sexual needs.

The Power of Now

By Eckhart Tolle

A reflective read that we should stay present in the moment to reduce depressive thoughts from the past and reduce anxiety from the unknown future.

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